Meryl Dorey: I’ve Changed My Mind

Meryl Dorey: I’ve Changed My Mind

They say it’s a woman’s prerogative. Making one decision and then, down the track, changing your mind. But everyone does it and it’s not necessarily a bad thing either. Think about those words—changing your mind.

Taken literally, they may sound a bit strange. They conjure up a scene of someone—an artist, perhaps, carving out a brain from hard wood and then, deciding at the last minute that something’s gone wrong and it might need a little bit of work here or there. A few hits with the hammer and chisel, being careful not to break it and have to start again. That’s how my strange mind works and what I’ve visualized.

But changing your mind is one of the many, many idioms that make the English language so difficult for non-native speakers to learn. When it comes to vaccination, I started to change my mind 26 years ago.

Like many parents, I didn’t just decide blithely one day to stop vaccinating my son or my subsequent children. It wasn’t like taking my clothes out of the closet and deciding that the red top looked better with those pants than the blue one. I changed my mind because I saw that vaccines had hurt my child and, like most people who were trying to be the best parent they could, seeing that harm and having it confirmed by my doctor (who told me that he would leave out the whooping cough portion of my son’s next shot—something that isn’t even possible today!) made me start to search for more information about these shots I was giving my son.

And I didn’t change my mind that day or that month—or even that year. Trying to be a responsible parent, I couldn’t decide until I had enough information about what I was doing. In retrospect, I should have put off any further vaccines until I was fully informed, but the default position back in the late 1980s/early 1990s was to vaccinate so, I did.

It wasn’t until my son was hospitalized 10 days after his MMR (measles, mumps, rubella) vaccine (the most common time for certain reactions following that particular shot, as I found out later on through my research) that I decided enough was enough. And even then, I didn’t have enough information to stop vaccinating my children completely. My daughter received three DT (diphtheria and tetanus) and OPV (oral polio) vaccines and my next son got three OPVs.

My youngest child is the only one who is completely unvaccinated. By the time she came along, I had gathered together enough information and done enough research to completely ‘change my mind’ about vaccination. By then, my husband and I had both knowledge and confidence about our decision—it was a good place to be!

Many parents have stories that echo ours. Nearly everyone I know who started out totally committed to vaccinating (or just going along with it because it was the default position) but who stopped at some point, changed their mind because of either personal experience with vaccine reactions, reactions in a friend or family member or exposure to information that made them question and want to know more.

When I originally had my change of mind, the internet was not as easily accessible as it is today. I got my information the old fashioned way—I visited medical libraries, copied medical journal articles, took them home and sat with my highlighter pen and read them through. I went to the medical library in Princeton, New Jersey. I visited the Library of Congress for one amazing day of obsessive reading, photocopying and research. I remember being afraid that those articles would weigh so much, I wouldn’t be able to take them home with me to Australia!

How times have changed. What used to take me hours and a lot of money at 10 cents a page to photocopy, is now nearly instant and free. The AVN’s (Australian Vaccination Network) library contains hundreds of books and tens of thousands of journal articles dating back to the early part of the twentieth century—and even further back when it comes to the smallpox vaccine.

I, like most parents who have changed their minds about vaccination, nutrition and medical treatments, made my decision after a lot of thought and a lot of discussions with health professionals and natural therapists about these issues. I took my responsibility seriously. And yes, like the artist in my earlier thoughts who changed the direction of his carving in hard wood with great difficulty, it was not easy for me to change my path or for my husband to do the same. We were your classic ‘true believers’ like most of our generation.

A belief and trust in doctors was hard-wired into our consciousness through years of medical shows, government pronouncements and social conditioning. But once we were empowered through our own research to understand that we could change our minds, the veil was torn away and we were able to see this situation clearly for what it was—a mass delusion that was built on quicksand and that needed bullying and lies to shore it up and keep it from sinking away forever.

If you are like I was—a true believer in vaccine safety, effectiveness and necessity—challenge yourself to read a bit about the other side of this issue. You may never change your mind or your beliefs, but at least you will come to understand that those of us who stopped vaccinating made that choice with valid information and out of love for our children. Understanding can overcome fear and hatred and right now, there is way too much fear and hatred going around regarding the issue of vaccination.

Note: This article was reprinted with the author’s permission. It was originally published at nocompulsoryvaccination.

6 Responses to "Meryl Dorey: I’ve Changed My Mind"

  1. Martha   August 13, 2016 at 10:05 am

    I’m 58 never Vaxxed and you can imagine how hard it was my folks to research back then. They were spurred on by the fact my dad’s older brother got polio from the live polio vaccine he received when inducted into the Army during World War 2. I have raised 7 unvaxxed and have been so appalled at the huge increase in the vaccine schedule and the increasing fear campaign and now legal campaign demanding parents vaccinate in America.

    My heart continues to break with every vaccine death and injury, but so glad to see the increase in parents saying NO! Also documentaries like Vaxxed:From Cover-up to Catastrophe.

  2. JAR   August 17, 2016 at 10:54 am

    Beautifully put, Meryl. So sorry that your son had to suffer, as, I’m sure you and your husband did, also.

    I,m sixty-nine years old and remember in the very early 1960s having such a bad reaction to the oral polio vaccine that I’m still experiencing the consequences of it today.

    Thank you for your eloquent expression of the path and struggle many of us have experienced.

    Bravo to all who are shining a light in the dark!

  3. Patricia   August 17, 2016 at 11:47 am

    I’m 69 and my children only had minimal vaccinations in 1983-88 or so. Shortly thereafter vaccinations quadrupled and all the problems began. I refuse to get flu or other shots after doing my own research and have warned my daughter to stay away from Gardisil and gave the research of its dangers.

  4. Patricia Meyer   August 17, 2016 at 12:26 pm

    I had stopped vaccinating my children in South Africa when they were small, after learning of the dangers from friends who were homeopaths. Nothing bad happened to their own or mine children, and clearly they were spared the usual illnesses as they went to schools and grew there. I am shocked and disappointed that this Mandate has come down on parents and even adults here in California to vaccinate everybody – even in the face of the TRUTHS that keep appearing in movies and from whistle Blowers in Big Pharma companies. I watch the terrible sudden deaths of tiny babies who are denied life before they are even here properly, by forcing 8 vaccine’s on them before their immune systems are even developed! They have convulsions and die! It’s hard for me to accept that Americans can be so afraid and gullible to accept everything medical as gospel truths!!
    Mass murder is happening and nobody sees it, except those who have woken up! SO sad!

  5. Tracey   August 17, 2016 at 12:58 pm

    God Bless you all for speaking the TRUTH on one of the biggest cover ups ever! Our current medical system and government are complicit in making society sick on a mass scale so money can be made (BILLIONS of dollars!) And you are right, society is brainwashed into thinking that a doctor is doing what is best for your health and the reality is the doctor is making you more SICK! Thank you NVIC and everyone who keeps putting out the TRUTH.

  6. Leah Christman   August 17, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    I was born in 1966. I had one round of vaccines and have not received any more since I was an infant. My mother got wise. 🙂 My two children are vaccine free. My little sister along with her three kids are vaccine free. Another sister’s four children and one grandbaby are vaccine free. Another sister’s three children and three grandbabies are vaccine free. Happy to say my list could go on. Thanks Mom for turning us on to the truth.


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